Was reading about the controversy around Serena Williams Rolling Stone comments about the Steubenville girl who was raped. If you missed it , Serena said “She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky. Obviously, I don’t know, maybe she wasn’t a virgin, but she shouldn’t have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that’s different.”
Since that story, she has retracted and apologized for her remarks and I thought, why?
Think about this…there are places in Africa where it is dangerous to be out of doors at night. Literally you are risking injury and death from animals such as lions, hyenas, etc. These animals are wild and will attack a human the same as they would another animal because that is what they do. There is nothing you can do or say that will stop them from being the wild animals they are. Nothing.
In those parts of Africa, why would anyone purposely NOT warn you about going outside after dark? Why is that even an option?
Of course it is the fault of the boys who raped the girl in Steubenville, no one is saying otherwise but, to Serena’s point, if she hadn’t been there in a degraded condition brought on by alcohol, there is a good chance that the fuckers who took advantage of her wouldn’t have. Rapists are typically situational offenders meaning that they are hyper aware of any circumstances where a woman is weak or in a degraded condition for which they have the significant advantage. They are cowards basically and won’t attack a woman who seems like she would fight back or even hurt them.
Why would you NOT want to warn women about being in a degraded condition amongst people she doesn’t know well? Why is that even an option?
What is the difference between a wild animal—who does violent things because it does not have any mechanism for modifying or controlling that behavior—and a rapist who apparently does violent things also because he does not have any mechanism for modifying or controlling that behavior. Women should absolutely take responsibility for their own safety (just the same as men should) but taking that responsibility does not in any way obviate the responsibility of men to control themselves.
To not warn women that there are men in this world who are little better than wild animals is the irresponsible choice…and…
…at least one public personality is willing to say this out loud.